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command from the shell will tell you which processes are hogging your memory (press the < or > on your keyboard until the list is sorted by %MEM). First and foremost, look carefully for processes you don't need, and disable those. Then monitor the process list for a while to see if there are any processes that take up a disproportionate amount of memory. Also check your cron tab for any jobs that are non-essential.