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Now, with the benefit of a little maturity (ok, a lot of maturity!) I try to rely on method. The remote always goes on the left hand arm of my chair, keys always on the hall table. The problems only come when I don't follow the method.
I am the worlds worse (well maybe besides you) at not putting whatever it is in the correct place. I have really been trying hard to do this and have kept pretty much everthing I own from getting lost by sticking to it.
Glasses were a pair a month both reading and sun keys were always lost, tools bought the small and big ones over an over then finding the one I lost and have 2 or 3.
Bro your not alone busy world causes things to get lost in our rush.
Make a place for each item and return that item to it's proper place .
You will be amazed at how well it saves you valuable items, not being late for work, locked outta the house or car.. You know what I am talking about.
My solution, I put stuff in my shoes, then when I go to leave and I put my foot in my shoe I remember to put that stuff back in my pocket.
Shoes hu nice idea gonna have to try that one thanks bro....
Lets see one thing I don't need to put in the shoes is my razor blade, gun, jim bowie knife and a few other things.
Things that will go into my shoe: Watch (opps haven't bought one since I lost the last on 10 years ago) keep forgeting to buy one, cell phone (opps haven't had one since 96) keys a go still got a car, cash, wallet hmm nope don't carry one kept losing it so it stays in the truck hidden (so I can't find it to lose it).
Shoes keys and cash that will work.
I need sites, games, cards or anything reasonable priced to improve memory.
Do something fun that will de-stress you.
Like a report, thumb-drive, etc....
For me I will remember that I need to bring in something like a report the next day, maybe once in the evening so as soon as I remember, it goes in my shoe.
I used to put sticky notes on my door but in a hurry I would sometimes not see them despite leaving out that door and I would still forget... but you can't miss something in your shoe.
This all started because 1 day I couldn't find my phone anywhere after a snowboard trip. I thought it was lost on the resort so I replaced it... 1 year later we went for another trip and I tried on my boots and what was in them? My cellphone!
That triggered the idea that storing things in my shoes was a good way to remember things as I went out the door.
I instantly lose the TV remove, keys, etc...If its too small and I cant trip over it, I have the potential of losing it and not finding it for awhile!
There's no one-stop pill for this. Speaking of which, it could by something physical, have you considered a checkup?
For most of us, chronic short term forgetfulness is related to some distraction in our life we won't cop to or don't really understand how it's affecting us.
For example, when you have a bad spot with a spouse or other S.O., and they storm out of the house your mind is distracted by what they are up to, who they are seeing, what they are doing. This is a dramatic example, the stress of life is often much more subtle, and distracts us at the worst possible moment.
Just the other night I had a project on my mind, there was one part I couldn't figure out the best way to do. I was helping the wife carry groceries and a bag of car litter to the house. On the short walk there, my mind drifted to this problem; I opened the trash lid . . . and almost dropped two bags of groceries in.
So my suggestion is to sit down, clear your mind, and figure out if something is going on that is a constant distraction to you. Usually when you try to "clear your mind" things come in uninvited. And it's probably going to be this thing, or a collection of things, that makes it's appearance first, and is likely what is causing the bouts of forgetfulness.
Come Monday I put on a different jacket and find myself at the station without tickets, credit cards, cash or office pass.
For most of us,
Should be "for some of us" or "from people I've known," poor wording, sorry.
1) go and get a pin from the sewing box.
2) sit in your favourite armchair.
3) stick the pin into one arm of the chair.
4) get up and you will remember and walk to the missing item.
I'm not sure why but this works for me. It may be to do with clearing the mind as rocknbil suggested above.
What I am good at remembering are roads. Once i've driven my way somewhere, I can go back ten years later and I even remember the oddest things, such as how tight the bend was, and the bumps in the road, unless they've been repaired, and what sights to look out for on the way.
Even the wife thinks it's strange.
I could easily find our way back to that restaurant the wife mentioned, but I couldn't tell you when it was I was supposed to be there.
i once worked at at Title and Escrow company. I filled approx. 30-35 boxes with escrow files...20-30 files per box. All numbers of the files were something like: 4645013 - AC
someone asked me where a specific file was, and i knew exactly which box it was in....this was days later...
freaky.
good at directions. i only need once, and i never forget.
a good trick for keys, wallets, glasses...etc... is to try to get a bowl or dish and put it on a kitchen counter for instance...
you always want to dump these items right when you get home, so have a dedicated spot.
@fashezee you may have to accept the fact that not much can help outside of yourself.. Ginko biloba only helps a select few. brain games and such only help you with analytical problem solving and such...
you have to build your memory up with real life everyday games... i have a little saying i say everyday i leave the house: wallet, keys, badge, phone.... and i slap each pocket that they are in...so i know they are there.
associate music with numbers you have to remember... phone numbers are good ones to sing...
locating items... thats tricky, because at the time of dumping or putting down the item, the brain is not focusing on the current event. thus does not take a mental picture of the event... making it harder to remember...
when i put stuff away, or put them down.. (keys) i try to take a snapshot of that area... what i usually remember is not the keys themself, but the area surrounding the keys... some books that were next to it, my kids socks....whatever...
games will not help. you need to program yourself to think "setting my keys down" - "putting my checkbook here" and dedicating the only thought you have to that event...
it takes time and it takes dedication, but it will help create memory blocks that have images tied to that event, making it easier to remember what you did, and where you did it.
good luck.
