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Help a webmaster with her professional mid-life crisis

I've lost my confidence in my abilities

         

hairycoo

6:23 pm on Sep 17, 2009 (gmt 0)

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Hello,

Haven't posted in ages and I'll try to keep this brief. I'm 26 and I've been involved in web design & marketing for nearly 6 years now. I've accumulated most of the knowledge I have for the first part of these years by reading books and this forum. I basically know and do a bit of everything from design, html, css, usability, content writing, seo, link building, affiliate and even though I feel my knowledge of each individual field is quite superficial, I have somehow managed to made it work.

I now own and run a few websites which allow me to live comfortably and save more than the average person. Monetization is done via adsense, affiliate and direct advertising deals. The bulk of the work for these websites was done 4 years ago and they've grown organically. But I have never taken them for granted and I know they'll go downhill at some point without serious work. For personal reasons, I haven't been that involved in them for the last 3 years so I did not add much content or do much promotion for them and yet revenue is quite steady, even growing a bit.

I have always worked on my own because I felt it suited my personality but I've now moved to London from Eastern Europe (on my own) and I feel like I've now reached a crossroads and I'm interested to know if other webmasters have felt something similar at some point in their lives.

With me, it's a combination of factors, I guess:

  1. Because I haven't done all that much in the past 3 years and because I also stopped reading and gaining knowledge around the same time (because that's all I was doing, there simply wasn't time left to put it into practice) I feel I've missed the boat when it comes to the web. I don't know what works these days and the volume of information has become so massive that the thought of trying to get myself up to date with everything seems impossible and daunting! Years ago knowing a bit of everything worked, these days, people are far more specialized and the web will change even more dramatically as time goes on. [/li]

  2. I have lost my confidence in my abilities and yet my results over the years indicate that I probably know more about web marketing than I think I do at the moment! But I feel that as more time passes, I know less and feel even less confident.[/li]

  3. I feel bored, I don't know if this (e.g. web marketing) is what I want to do for much longer, but then if I don't do this (which earns me good money now so it seems silly to give up) I don't know what else I can do for a living. I've never been an employee so I don't know how regular jobs work. I've been considering getting a 'real' job but after years of being my own boss, I don't know if I can adapt to its constraints.[/li]

  4. I've been thinking of specializing and becoming a consultant in a specific, more manageable, area of web marketing which I would find it easier to stay on top of. But then I've never been accountable to anyone but myself so having clients would be a major shift. Plus, I don't know which area I could go for and don't all areas interact with each other so I reckon I would need to be up to date with everything, regardless.[/li]

  5. While I've always worked on my own and felt comfortable spending long hours/days on my own (even when I was in a relationship), with my move to London I now feel the need of a social working environment because I've been also going through some personal changes which have brought out my sociable side. This is partly why I've been considering getting a job. I'm also considering some shared office space or a co-operative of sorts (if that concept exists) but being new in London, I'm at a loss where to look.[/li]

  6. Because money has been coming in steadily (but not in massive amounts), I've become too comfortable and laid back. I have savings to last me for 2 years at my current lifestyle. So, I don't have the same incentive to make more money that drove me years ago. My brain was buzzing with ideas and I couldn't wait to get up in the morning to start work.[/li]

Because I've been feeling all of these things, I'm now looking at the clock every 20 minutes and waiting for the 'working day' to finish and inevitably, I feel cross with myself at the end of the day for not being productive.

Has anyone experienced anything similar? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Any tips on specific resources/groups to look for in London would also be appreciated.

Thanks for reading

Digmen1

6:42 pm on Sep 17, 2009 (gmt 0)

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Wow !

benevolent001

7:07 pm on Sep 17, 2009 (gmt 0)

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Hi

Welcome to WebmasterWorld after break

Since you have posted after long time you are already back on the track :)

Mere absence from active web development should not be reason for not able to start off again. The basic game of web is still the same as it was few years back , although lot has been done in the buzz created with Web 2.0

Since you are already familiar with various web technologies , a brief recap of all the stuff would be great for you. Just have a glimpse of tutorials at w3schools website and think of some new venture to start up with the cup of coffee in hand , sitting in your garden , watching children playing and running your brain to get some new idea to play with. :)

The interest in what we do is the only motivating factor which keeps people busy for years and years in what they do. Money is secondary factor , interests is what is the real important thing and money with follow for sure.

I suggest you to see what interests you at this point of time and start off web venture in that direction

Good luck , keep all of us updated :) and Welcome once again

mack

7:19 pm on Sep 17, 2009 (gmt 0)

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hairycoo welcome back! :)

The fact that your sites are still doing so well now, is an indecation that what you did years ago, is still very much effective today.

Because you still have income, you can afford to give your new projects time. Recap what you did, do some forum reading to see just what has changed. Sometimes a new project is enough to get the bug back! You will be amazed just how much you remember and how quickly you can get back up to speed.

Mack.

hairycoo

7:27 pm on Sep 17, 2009 (gmt 0)

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Thanks for all your replies. It's also a question of whether I still want to do this for years to come... maybe I just need a really good idea to get me excited but maybe I've just had enough of web marketing.

Has anyone tried office sharing/desk space rental? I'm looking at that option, physically going to work and mixing with other people might be good for me.

IanTurner

11:01 pm on Sep 17, 2009 (gmt 0)

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Forget the real job - I can tell you they will destroy your soul.

If you are doing well enough to look after yourself you could always employ some people and run a company if you want to have people working around you.

Jane_Doe

4:47 am on Sep 18, 2009 (gmt 0)

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Forget the real job - I can tell you they will destroy your soul.

I agree. I would join some clubs if you need something more social. Personally, I think this kind of work is the best job I've ever had in my life.

anallawalla

9:48 am on Sep 18, 2009 (gmt 0)

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How about rebuilding your confidence by helping others in the various areas you feel you have superficial knowledge. Before answering their question, search for some authoritative sources, read and learn, then write a brief answer. Once you have done this for some months, you will have picked up the latest knowhow and get feedback from the people you helped. If you brand your public persona with your name or company name, it will help you get some clients too.

rj87uk

9:50 am on Sep 18, 2009 (gmt 0)

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hairycoo, I moved to office space around a year ago now and its great as you do get to interact with other people make new friends so its a lot more socialable than working alone.

Rugles

3:45 pm on Sep 18, 2009 (gmt 0)

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I moved to office space around a year ago now and its great as you do get to interact with other people make new friends so its a lot more socialable than working alone.

And you will get to network and possibly pick up new cliets.

MatthewHSE

7:36 pm on Sep 18, 2009 (gmt 0)

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With a story like that, I would take a few weeks to write an e-book about how anyone can use your "secret methods for success," bundle $1,697 worth of extra "free" items with it, create a mile-long webpage and sell the whole package for $99, "this week only." ;)

Jane_Doe

11:49 pm on Sep 18, 2009 (gmt 0)

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I've never been an employee so I don't know how regular jobs work.

You have to have get up early each day, take off those bunny slippers, and shower (often before 6:00 in the morning while you are still half asleep!), commute to work in heavy traffic, often work in a drab, gray, soulless, windowless cubicle, sometimes work for someone with an IQ that doesn't break out of double digits, and help write meaningless mission statements with terms like "synergies", "convergent technologies" and "capturing the vertical market space". You and your coworkers are often referred to by management not by your first or even last names, but as various FTEs (full time equivalent work units).

If you are lucky and work really hard you just might get a tiny raise at the end of the year that just might make your current salary keep up with inflation, that is if your job isn't shut down and taken over by someone in a third world country willing to work for 20% of what you were making.

Other than that, its great!

IanTurner

12:38 am on Sep 19, 2009 (gmt 0)

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Well said Jane_Doe - that explains what I was trying to say.

swa66

6:59 am on Sep 19, 2009 (gmt 0)

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Sounds like it's time to seek some subject in an area you know nothing about, but could get interested in.
Let's say how a car works, or how to cook great genuine Mexican food, or all you need to know to be a cab driver in London, or ...
Or take something from your personal experience (moving to London, ...)

Research it, figure out how it all works/is/... what one needs to know. And build/promote/... a new site. After that you'll have energy to go back over your old ones, giving them a small refresh and put them back on auto pilot for a while. While you do it again for another subject.
Having the new site will also make you care for the new one and cuddle it enough so it gets indexed and can start to grow.

Same goes for web technology: never used PHP? , never done pure CSS? , never done validated xhtml strict? , ... use it next time to spice up things and keep it interesting. It also helps to spice up your CV should you ever need to work for "the man" (but don't do that unless you really have to, there's few places not infused with nothing but trouble.)

Oh, the daunting tasks of keeping up: just take them one at a time as your new site becomes a reality, it becomes easy enough (and you already know where to find the missing bits of knowledge anyway :) ).

ronin

4:14 pm on Sep 20, 2009 (gmt 0)

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I feel like I've now reached a crossroads and I'm interested to know if other webmasters have felt something similar at some point in their lives.

Let me guess - it's the lack of motivation which is getting you down, right? You used to be able to hugely inspire yourself: you leapt out of bed with a thousand and a half ideas, worked until you dropped, only to have another burst of energy the next day and so on for the rest of the month, season, year? It didn't matter that you didn't have other people around you, because your endless reserves of self-motivation filled the gap, right?

Now you're pretty tired of having to work on your own all the time, when everyone else gets to go out and work in an environment with other people, plus you're not even sure you see the point of working sometimes, since the money seems to keep coming in regardless whether you work or not - even if you know that your income is probably a little bit less than if you were able to keep motivating yourself to work.

If that's anything close to what you're feeling, then rest assured that others get that too - and, I have to admit, that's a fair approximation of what I experienced three years ago, too.

For some people in this industry, working for money is what inspires them. As long as they can think of another money-raising project, they'll be off again to make more cash. I suspect you are a member of the other group: the group which is motivated by freedom - the freedom to decide your own hours, to not have to work for someone else, to work only the days and times you want and not when you don't want. For a member of that group, once you start bringing in so much money from passive income streams that you can live a good lifestyle and still save quite a lot as well, then the reason for doing much work at all starts to become pretty hard to find.

My own solution in mid-2006 was to decide to go back to college and undertake a Masters Degree. That gave me the social landscape I was looking for, without the tedious unpleasantness of moronic, dehumanising office-routines and pressure of an ignorant boss breathing down the back of my neck (believe me if you're lucky enough not to have experienced any of this in your life, you really shouldn't be in a hurry to find out about it).

If going back to Higher Education is not really you're thing, perhaps consider undertaking direct outdoors volunteer work for a charity part-time or full-time.

Essentially, what I've found is that as soon as web-stuff becomes your secondary rather than primary focus and you can't always work on it anymore because you have other things to attend to and be responsible for, suddenly you feel more enthused and champing at the bit to get back to the keyboard because it's no longer "always there in front of you". Not to mention, that an extended period away from the monitor allows your mind to clear some space and... you'll be surprised at all the fresh ideas which start flooding in.

I hope it works out for you - if you want to talk more about this to someone who has been through it and hammered out their own strategies to deal with it, pm me. (I've just moved from London to Leeds this week, but I'm counting on being in London at least one day a week on average from now on...)

hairycoo

10:23 am on Sep 21, 2009 (gmt 0)

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Thanks everyone for your replies. I earn a good living and I can save a reasonable amount compared to the average person but it's not good enough to allow me to get too comfortable. I never take it for granted... and because of that, I know I can't afford to take a real and complete break from web marketing. But lots of good ideas and it's good to know I'm not alone.

Thanks

dertyfern

12:18 pm on Sep 21, 2009 (gmt 0)

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hairycoo,

I had the exact same problem...steady income rolling in without having to do much and without having to interact with people--I was bored stiff.

About two months ago, I moved to London (from Las Vegas) permanently to open a new business that involves working with clients directly. I meet up with clients and vendors at least four times per week and the outcome has been extremely positive and in fact has even helped my old business as I'm applying lessons from others.

I've also started a networking group here in London and have met a bunch of great people in the local business community.