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Self-administered anger management

[balam]

So, at those times when you just want to reach out and throttle someone, how do you cope and not end up in a jail cell?

[DamonHD]

Several approaches, none glorious, but I've not hit or been hit yet, so somewhat effective I guess.

1) Make a scene so that the perp gets some unwanted attention. Tears, shouting, crying, whatever. Bullies and idiots don't really want to be caught in the act.

2) Call the police if it's something bad.

3) Call the perp's management and escalate if it's a commercial thing. Very satisfying to see a bully perp that thought themselves invulnerable get fired or at least severely censured from on high. It's happened many times now. *That* Bill Gates even punished a M$ perp for me once when I was a teenager, fairly spectacularly.

4) Work behind the scenes to get even, or at least let the perp understand their behaviour is not penalty-free.

Rgds

Damon

[bsterz]

Let it go.

[digitalghost]

The satisfaction of clocking someone rarely, if ever overcomes the dismal feeling that comes afterward when you realize you've lost control. If you have to spend any time for it, it's worse.

I can only recall one time asking myself if the jail time was worth it. I was prepared to spend the time for stomping a mud hole in his ass and walking it dry. I did my time peacefully, secure in the knowledge that justice had been done, for both of us.

[DamonHD]

Yes, "let it go" is almost always the best option, but one that I sometimes feel reluctant to take, because the perp just gets to see being a s**t as a no-cost no-risk winning strategy.

I like to keep things more even in favour of playing nice.

Rgds

Damon

[rj87uk]

I think the best thing to do is laugh it off and even better if you can get a few people to laugh it off (at him) with you - make him feel like the reject and you will be forever happy in the knowledge that he probably isn't happy inside.

heh.

[bsterz]

One note - I have been somewhat unsuccessful in the implementation of my "let it go" policy in the past. The only reason I feel that it's the best course of action is that I can't remember a single time that I felt better in the long run for stepping on somebody's neck for something stupid they've done.

But with that said - again - I've not always been practicing what I preach :)

[weeks]

I like the advice here. To calm down, I ask first, is this important. Sometimes the answer is yes.

Then, I ask is if it likely to happen again or is it correctable. Often, the answer is yes.

Then, I have to say, is my anger appropriate. This is a tough one, because it FEELS right. But, check carefully.

Finally, what's it worth to me? Going to jail would really cramp my style, for example. Or, not ever coming back to the restaurant again might be something not good for me. What goes around, comes around, too.

But, sometimes it's important, appropriate, it can be fixed and it's worth whatever time or social discomfort I might have to invest.

[Rosalind]

Go and talk to someone. If it's really bad and unjust, and it makes sense to do so, go and talk to the media.

[rocknbil]

I used to have a terrible temper. I mean a red-faced, childish, stomp my feet, hold my breath, break everything in sight, pay the fines and do the time temper. :-) One day it came down to this:

Understand that if they p*** you off, they got you. They win.

Since then I've had the honor of seeing an uncountable number of things that I say, "Wow, X years ago that would have drove me ballistic." Haven't been *really* upset in jeeze, a decade. Maybe the Valium has something to do with it.

kidding, I don't even drink.