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does this happen to anyone else and if so, what can you do to try to keep yourself focused?
People have refused to work with him, others claim to have bitten the insides of their mouths raw while being with him.
He cant see when he's wrong and I swear he lies to prove a point, he's condesending and sexist - not just tongue in cheek but outright sexist.
Oh he knows people dont like him but he cant see why - his words.
There are some really awful people around arent there?
I avoid him like the plague.
If you haven't done that yet, then go do that. If you're lucky, she's just totally unaware of the effect she's having, and will be happy to be more considerate, now that she knows there's a problem.
If that approach fails, then you might need to explore other options, like going to the higher-ups to request an office re-assignment or something. But the direct, polite approach is almost always a good first step.
Personally, I think loud voices are annoying sometimes -- like if you don't particularly like the person. I used to work with a woman whose voice could carry into the next county, but she's also one of my best friends, and it never bothered me one bit. At the same company, there was another loud one (although not quite as loud) who was annoying as all get-out. ;)
Needless to say those in my department have began using headphones heavily. We have asked them to tone it down a bit, but it seems that they take offense to the request. Luckily, I do have my own office as a subset to the larger room so I can close my door.
It has made me aware of how different various departments can be in terms of acceptable behavior and communication style. I suppose a lot of it has to do with your daily job duties. Regardless, I feel your pain. My methods of keeping myself focused:
Door closure (if you have a door)
Two monitors to keep my eyes overloaded with work
I have also perfected the skill of getting my mind in "the zone" where I am completely absorbed into what I am doing. This paired with the MP3 player is my best method.
she leaves at 3pm every day so at least i have a few hours without her rabbiting on in my ear.
4 out of 5 of my guys use head phones to help with the noise of her going on and on and on.
one of the most annoying things about it is that i sit the closest to her so when she wants a rant, she turns to me and starts going on. i try to ignore her and keep on working, but then she turns the volume up so i have to hear what she is saying. usually about some program she watched the night before. load of #*$!.
i think i'll have a word with her manager and see if she can do anything about it..... hopefully move her to a new office. that'd be nice.
. . . There is one lady who cannot think to herself, i get a running commentry of everything she does everyday and it drives me up the wall.
is she calling mr jones, yes, i could tell you everything she is about to do as she says it before she does it.....
i am wearing headphones today to try to mask the pain of the voice . . .
OMG! I recently QUIT a job over this exact same person. I tried everything, headphones, closing the door, but her voice pierced all known objects and right into the very heart and soul, nothing can stop it. it's a force of nature!
Does she also feels the need to tell you or anyone else in proximity about the problems with her house, car, wife, medical conditions (ones that men have NO NEED to hear) and anything else that keeps the endless flow of ninny babble going? People walk around the entire building to go in the back door to avoid getting ensnared in the trap of her shrill, piercing voice, from which there is no escape?
And when accosted by supervisors for her ever-running mouth, breaks into tears and plays the martyr, such that no supervisor can bring it to themselves to tell her she has no place in this company?
Yeah. I gave up and quit, I'm so much better off. :-)
I know avoidance is not a solution, but you can't stop the rain, you can't stop the rotation of the earth, and with some people nothing short of the silence of death will stop the endless drivel issuing forth from their mouth. I see it as "the act of God that propelled me forward" and should probably stop by and thank her. :-)
joined:July 8, 2002
Since complaining about the constant yaking had no effect perhaps some outrageous reverse psychology might work. Tell the offender that you would like to pay attention to her, but since you are too busy it would be much better if she wrote you a letter. It's unlikely that she will, but this tactic might make her think about your being too busy.
If she does write you a letter it will be easier to ignore than her chatter. If there is no change you won't have lost anything for having tried.
Get hold of an Amp with a reverb/echo delay. Set the echo delay to about 0.2 second, and use it replay her own "music" back to her. Tweak the Echo Delay Setting until it sounds like true echo. Turn the Mic on, point the speakers back in her direction, Set it and Forget it!
That would give her a chance to taste her own medicine!
Many moons ago I had a friend/colleague that was a big time mumbler. When a few of us pulled this prank on him, he really thought that either he was hearing himself, or the ceiling was talking back to him. When he figured out what we were up to, everyone had a good laugh and (thankfully) fixed the problem. Had he not been known to be such a good sport, it would not have been a good idea to try this on a cranky bloke.
Warning: I am only joking, don't try this at work -this could even backfire on you if she feels compelled to discuss with you -at length- her new "I am hearing voices" problem.