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So, why is it that at the beginning of a relationship girls ALWAYS wear stockings BUT after a period of time, this dies out?
Brings a tear to my eye just thinking about it....
Nick
Nick
Please may I buy you a pair?
NEVER say something like that to a woman! The answer will typically be something like 'yes, of course, and while we're at it, the shoes that will fit with it (implying the other 237 pairs in her closet wouldn't) are quite nice too. And I got to have a new bag for those shoes (implying the other 27 bags...) and of course I need a new <insert any expensive brand like Armani or so> dress to round it up.'
And there goes all the money you put aside for that new gaming computer with the super-fast graphic card you had in mind.
:)
Not that my boyfriend never spends money on me. I'd rather he didn't but I really couldn't say no to the iPod for my birthday. I mean... he wanted to buy it for me, and will probably spend a lot of time fidgeting with it himself... And what girl can resist the allure of having a stereo where her brain should be?
Well, I can appreciate how the thread was intended out of a sense of regret of how nice women's legs look in stockings and how it's a shame they don't wear them more, but I have to stick with my analysis of the situation-- if you're not paying attention, she's not going to bother. If you are paying attention, you'd better say so. It's not just that she's got you already so why should she expend effort. It's that you've got her so you're not expending the same effort you did. And that's normal. You can't afford the amount of effort you expend on one date a week, every day. It's got to be spread out a bit more... I know I don't have the energy to make his lunch every morning, put away his laundry so he looks respectable when he goes out, make sure there's shampoo because he'd forget to buy it otherwise, and do all the other little things we do for each other every day, AND doll myself up at night for his delectation! I just don't have the energy. Especially since he doesn't care whether I dress up or not.
So, it's sweatpants and styrofoam plates at dinner, but at least it's a good dinner.
So, it's sweatpants and styrofoam plates at dinner, but at least it's a good dinner.
Some men might like lingerie, some men might not care, but I think pretty much all of them appreciate nudity, and you never have to worry about sizes, colors or accessories... hehehehe
you could always skip the sweatpants
Mivox, do you thing dragonlady's boyfriend would notice (see post #56), or would he expect her to point out the absence of the aforementioned pants and cue him as to how he should respond? :)
Usually... Yes.
Don't look at me like that. I'm naked a lot, and he doesn't bother getting worked up about it all the time. I've discovered that it's much easier to simply tell him my intentions than to attempt to seduce him.
OK, I admit, he's kind of weird, and so am I, but I've decided nothing seems more foolish than someone trying to be coy about something and the other person just not paying attention. So, I save myself the trouble.
Y'know... thanks, guys, I'd totally managed to forget how wacky my life is. Hm.
>would he expect her to point out the absence of the aforementioned pants and cue him as to how he should respond?>
Usually... Yes.
Well, I suppose sitting on his lap might make him take notice. But it's not so strange, IMO. There is definitely something to be said for walking around the house sans clothing without being molested every time. :)
It's just important to remember to use an apron if you're going to fry up bacon in the morning before getting dressed...
Damn, now y'all dragged me into it. I hope Brett doesn't see this. We might get fired.
No, it's much simpler to communicate simply what you want. I usually have to say something to him to get my point across unless we're both thinking the same thing to begin with.
You know, I think a lot of couples have problems because each assumes that certain things don't have to be said. I'm learning that it's generally easier to explicitly communicate your expectations, unless it's patently obvious that you're starting out on the same page.
*shrug*
On the one hand, my feminine ego feels that I should be overpoweringly alluring and resents that he's quite capable of entirely ignoring me. But, on the other hand, my practical side recognizes that I'm not *always* in the mood to get molested and it's far easier to specify it explicitly than rely on him to notice cues, especially if they're actually pretty darn subtle.
So, it's much better to clarify right off the bat.
I do know better than to attempt to fry anything without the proper gear. I didn't have to learn that the hard way. My kitchen window lacks curtains anyway.
Lawman, are you having temperature-regulation issues? Or are you finding nudity a difficult topic? I thought the conversation about stockings was provocative enough...
The human body isn't really inherently sexy unto itself. I mean... when was the last time you walked in on your mom in the shower by accident? Brr. Not sexy. Not that she's not sexy to my dad; she's just not to me. Thus, the sexiness is in the perception, not inherent to the body. Thus, being naked is not itself sexy, but the fact that so many of us engage in intercourse while naked and otherwise spend little time in the nude has sexified nudity. Like, with many relationships it seems, if the woman takes her clothes off and stands in front of you, chances are good you're going to have a very good evening. That's nudity sexified.
I don't think nudity itself is that sexy. Much sexier to have it left up to your imagination.
So I can kind of see the point of the thread initially-- stockings. Very sexy. You're wearing them, but you can see right through them! That sexifies the body no end.
But, obviously that's not for everybody. (Hence all the fetishes out there, ranging from the normal to the truly bizarre. Shoes I can understand-- lots of shoes are sexy. But... Furries? Brrr. I need a warm shower. With bleach.)
I've heard nudists say that skimpy bikini bathing suits are infintely more sexual/indecent than a beach full of naked people... and having visited public hot springs full of naked people, then seeing a group show up wearing bathing suits... well, I don't know that the bathing-suit-wearers were more alluring than the rest of us, but they certainly did look funny. (...they also looked increasingly uncomfortable the longer they stayed, which was even funnier since they kept their clothes on because they were uncomfortable in the first place. Can't help but wonder why they didn't all stay home and take bubble baths.)
True dat.
Well, some fetishist out there might. Never say "nobody"...
>Can't help but wonder why they didn't all stay home and take bubble baths.>
Yeah...
My dad was slightly traumatized when his sister said of course she went topless on the beach in Norway-- everyone did. Funny to think.
I had a German roommate for a while. Slightest provocation-- off came her clothes! She would occasionally realize that this was not what the rest of us were used to, and she'd sort of put a towel on, but it was more distracting with the towel than without...
If anyone so much as mentions boxers or briefs - this thread goes.
Go on - I dare ya :-)
unmentionables
German nudists make for better conversation by far.
many customers just had to send back pics, so I started to promote it and had contests, got to be fun but wierd as well
the lingerie trade shows take the cake though... ;)
No way! I never even THOUGHT about those even existing!
Man, that would be a party.
Bet you could see some stockings there, Nick_W.
Monty Python's Meaning of Life scene "find the fish" (or is that 'fishy', 'fishie', 'fischey'?)
Australia's Foreign Minister (all who know will know what I mean ... as for the rest of you, well ... some entertaining weekend surfing eh?)
Cheers and Hooroo
JP
Australia's Foreign Minister (all who know will know what I mean ... as for the rest of you, well ... some entertaining weekend surfing eh?)
RALMAO - some people just shouldn't wear fishnets ;)
Got a link for this?
mivox said...but I think pretty much all of them appreciate nudity
It's much more interesting to try to leave as much on as possible
and since mens unmentioables are so boring what would you be interested in seeing, from a purly hypothetical point of view.
Got a link for this?
It's much more interesting to try to leave as much on as possible
Not all heterosexual men are interested in seeing women in lingerie, but pretty much all heterosexual men find nude women interesting... that's all I was saying. ;)
...and since mens unmentioables are so boring what would you be interested in seeing, from a purly hypothetical point of view.
My boyfriend, naked. :)
I did buy a new bra that he really likes, though. So maybe there's hope for him yet. I involved him in the purchasing process, so maybe that's the key...
>search Google for ["alexander downer" stockings] you'll get the drift. Couldn't find any pics though. LOL.
Apparently it was part of a fundraiser/promo for the Adelaide season of Rocky Horror Picture Show (now there's a bunch of guys and gals in full tog out for you, even outdoes MP "fishie ... fishie" IMHO!).
Can you imagine if Amanda Vanstone or Natasha S.P. got into the spirit! =:-o
Cheers
JP
Can you imagine if Amanda Vanstone or Natasha S.P. got into the spirit! =:-o
There was the time Joan Kirner in leather did Joan Jett and the Blackhearts.
MP "fishie ... fishie" IMHO!).
Cheers,
Sophie
