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My Wife's B'day Present

do I have any leverage?

         

lawman

10:14 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Wife wanted a desk, file cabinet, book case, chair for her birthday. Got it all on sale at Office Max for $500 and change.

For my birthday I want a supercharger for my G35 Coupe. Cost will be $5000 and change. She says no. I say she got what she wanted, why shouldn't I?

Keep in mind that the supercharger is supposed to crank out 340+ rwhp and is thus a necessity.

What sayest thou?

lawman

jeremy goodrich

10:17 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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>>>>>Got it all on sale

That is a big part of the problem -> if she finds out you also bought it on sale then she will think you are cheap ;)

What you tell her is that, it's not the size of the gift - but the thought that counts.

Keep in mind, I've only been married for about 3 & 1/2 years, but been with my wife for almost 6 years - so I am still very new at this.

Perhaps somebody with a more serious relationship has a better approach?

lawman

10:19 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Haha, Jeremy, if it makes her feel any better, I promise to try to get a sale price on the sc.

jeremy goodrich

10:20 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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ha ha ha ha, I think you missed my point :)

Next time, try buying her the desk from someplace nice (read expensive & European, depending on her taste) that way, it will seem like you spent a bundle - and more than likely, you will have.

Please let me know how it goes, eh? My own B-day is coming up soon...and the wife is a few months after me.

deejay

10:20 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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it's not the size of the gift - but the thought that counts.

*aghast* Jeremy... if he tells her that, he'll end up with a $5 diecast model of his car with a supercharger.

mivox

10:25 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Bought the desk set on sale? Office Max? Good Gawd man, it's all fiberboard, isn't it? Think about that: Fiberboard furniture. Maybe she can fashion you a supercharger thingie out of aluminum foil... (We all learned in elementary school that handmade gifts are the most meaningful, right?)

Nope, you have no leverage. Go for the die-cast model, and you might get lucky. ;)

lawman

10:40 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Y'all keep in mind, I didn't pick out her desk, she did. Now, ATI Procharger has a SC that's whispering my name. :)

mivox

10:55 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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I didn't pick out her desk, she did

She might have picked out something different if you'd taken her to Ethan Allen instead of Office Max, though... ;)

jeremy goodrich

11:04 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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roflmao, mivox - now that was good. ;)

edit_g

11:06 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Ok, sorry lawman, this has to be done - spot the difference:

http:**//www.roadandtrack.com/images/rt_images/2002/november/2002_11_g35_static_rear.jpg (imagine a SC under there)

http:**//images.officemax.com/images/kreb_large/777720203094A.GIF

How would you feel?

miles

11:15 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Lawman...Really you can ONLY go the speed limit. All that super charger is going to do is get you there a little quicker. Well even if you do speed you are a lawyer. ;)

ShawnR

11:32 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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You could try the "If you really, really loved me" line. If that doesn't work, you could have a look at: Robert Cialdini: "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion" ISBN: 0688128165 hehehe ;)

[edited by: ShawnR at 11:33 pm (utc) on June 27, 2003]

Hawkgirl

11:33 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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I'm on your side, lawman.

Then again, I'm of the "ask forgiveness, not permission" school of possessions.

Buy it. Call it a birthday present, call it your National Lawman's Day Present ... call it whatever you want.

Buy it, man. Buy the toy!

What's she gonna do once you've got it? Oh sure, it'll be a little stormy for a couple of days ... but it'll be well worth it.

mivox

11:35 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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I thought he was trying to get her to buy it for him... bit of a tougher sell in that case.

Hawkgirl

11:39 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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I'm saying he should just circumvent the problem and buy it himself. :) It all ends up coming out of the same pot anyway, right?

She can get him a nice card for his birthday and a tankful of gas to feed the charger.

coconutz

11:46 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Obviously a business necessity. You may need to defend a client charge with a crime involving a supercharged motor vehicle. How else would you do the research? Just not possible from an Office Max desk and chair.

EliteWeb

11:47 pm on Jun 27, 2003 (gmt 0)

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I say it depends on who's maken the money and how all that goes. If lawman has the funds and the family does so money is no issue then its the thought that counts :P hope you get it if thats what you want :D I mean hey, its a toy and a need so its something that has to happen. If she gets it for you think she can save money couz you would go buy it for yourself some time :P

Unless maybe she has something special for you already :P

lawman

1:10 am on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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At this time all money is produced by the lawmanster hisself. I have other cool things to bring up such as:

1) She's living in the house she wanted;
2) She's wearing braces she said were a necessity;
3) All college education expenses paid;
4) She would like a Volvo, but a 2002 hand-me-down Acura TL Type S ain't too bad;
5) She doesn't have to ask when she wants to buy clothes;
6) Hey, I took her to Boston Pubcon;
7) I'll let her ride in my supercharged ride;
8) She married the man of her dreams.

I really should get that supercharger. :)

lawman

pmac

1:15 am on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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For sure,

Pop for the mod on the coupe. It goes under the hood right? What are the chances of her looking there? <duck>

Then lower the demands on the bday present to a more plausible item like a new set of rims or a suspension upgrade kit. If your gonna strap on the SC you need to upgrade the rubber and the shocks right?....Right?

lawman

1:24 am on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Hey pmac,

Didn't you get the sedan? If so, you been following the SC upgrade on freshalloy?

BTW, my unit included the performance upgrade (18" wheels, super sticky tires, limited slip, etc.).

AmericanBulldog

1:30 am on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Perhaps somebody with a more serious relationship has a better approach?

Jeremy, I hope your wife doesn't read this board.

Lawman, I side with Hawkgirls argument, it's easier to get forgiven then to get permission. Buy it and enjoy it.

pmac

1:33 am on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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>Didn't you get the sedan?<

Yeah, just finished breaking it in.

>you been following the SC upgrade on freshalloy? <

No, but I think my wife has, maybe she will buy me one for my birthday. ;-)

AAnnAArchy

1:49 am on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Buy the supercharger or whatever (I like my cars slow), but also buy *her* something. Something a little less practical to add to her "birthday" gift. Or get her something spiffy to go with her new desk - flat panel monitor, new computer, fancy new phone, a small tiny bit of jewelry from Tiffany.

msr986

2:21 am on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Why don't you just buy the supercharger for her, then let her ride in the car once in a while?

ShawnR

4:04 am on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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... but not drive it

ducks

mivox

8:46 pm on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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At this time all money is produced by the lawmanster hisself.

Then why are you asking in the first place? Go buy it, for goodness sake.

kevinpate

9:53 pm on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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party of the first part whispers to party of the second party ...
the sc would rev the car's engine the way you rev mine darlin'

and iffin that don't work, make the car happy on yer own. After all, when it comes to cars, many of our darlin's ain't gonna understand that relationship any more than we will ever understand why anyone needs more than 3 pairs of shoes ... it's just the way things are, accept that fact and perspective forevermore becomes a tad more crystal

Big_Balou

11:52 pm on Jun 28, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Lawman,

I have to agree with the "....easier to get forgiven than permission..." stance.

Otherwise I never would have gotten my bike.

lawman

1:01 am on Jun 29, 2003 (gmt 0)

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Then why are you asking in the first place? Go buy it, for goodness sake.

Sounds like you've never had a wife. ;)

<To explain the difference between having a girlfriend and having a wife.

Before we were married, I said, "I think I'm going to buy a Harley and we'll hang out with the other bikers at Cabbo Wabbo" (Sandy Springs, GA). "Sure" she says. Shortly thereafter she turns up pregnant, we had no insurance, and I had to pay for all expenses. There went the Harley.

Fast forward to two months ago (we've been married seven and a half years). The conversation went just like this:

"I was admiring Lloyd's bike (neighbor) and Lloyd said . . . "

She interrupted, "You're not getting a motorcycle.">

ShawnR

1:21 am on Jun 29, 2003 (gmt 0)

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I know what you mean. In my house we have it worked out pretty well: I make all the major decisions (like whether there will be global peace) and she just makes the minor ones (like where we live, where the kids go to school,...) ;)
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