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Lap disolve into a flashback sequence ....
I was outside with some friends laughing having a good time and some old guy peeks out his window and turns on the lights to see what we are up to...
I clearly remember arguing that people should be euthanized when they turn 35. They have, at that point, lived the most fruitful years of their lives and should give others a chance.
It occurs to me that I didn't even like myself until I was 40!
(a) coming home with my first ever sporty car, some
thing I somehow managed to always bypass in my
youth. Upon seeing the 'are you nuts' eyeballs
I simply noted it's not a midlife crisis buy
because I did check that the car seat would fit.
(b) showing up at the youngest child's first pre T-ball
game, and being completely bombarded with question
after question from the 99% of parents who were
just starting out in sports with their first born.
After about question #30, I looked to my spouse
and whispered "It's finally happened... we've
become the elders."
Do what you love. Yep, it's cliche.
Tesla would have kept inventing even if he never ran into Westinghouse. Tolkien wrote books with no regard for money. My favorite is Mel Fisher. All he wanted to do was search for lost treasure. Every little boy has made a hole in a yard somewhere looking for gold. Mel Fisher found the Atocha, after losing a son and putting every penny he had on the line. (as well as quite a few pennies other people loaned to him).
I know several very wealthy people that are miserable. They hate their lives, hate their jobs, they even hate themselves. My best friend wanders all over the U.S. taking black and white pictures of the people he meets. He never has more than a couple of hundred dollars at one time. Every time he calls me he exudes happiness. Some day, his collection of photos and stories might interest a publisher. He doesn't care, and he's happy.
will you work for someone else for 100k and work for yourself 80k? (yes, $180k is alot of cash :) )
Do you prefer to be an mgr or an engineer? a director? (I prefer to be happy)
or self boss? (Never, I'd work myself too hard)
shaoye, you must follow you own path. Ask people what they like or dislike about the path they have choosen and realize that things that happened to them on one path may not happen to you on that same path. Only the certain things like periods without contracts for consultants and periods of boredom with a long-term job (read 25+ years) are certainties.
The only advice I'll offer, think twice before having three children. Two works well generally, so does four, three and the middle child may have difficulties. But still, it may not happen to your children.
..... Shane
Well, must be a personal thing, I guess......
At 51, I still believe (more or less) in the same things...
Still go to rock concerts (sometimes playing in them too, he, he.....
Still stay out 'til 8:00 am or later (no grief from my parents now though :+) )
My kids are real pleased to bump into me in the bars/discos at 5:00 am, instead of being embarrassed.
I guess when you start to feel old (in your head) it's time to retire..... LOL