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I'm in my office and the better half (SlyGal) just came in to have a cigarette with me. I'm flipping through a few threads on WebmasterWorld and ran across this one. She made me stop, so we could read it.
I spend a lot of time on the computer, for business and personal reasons. Sometimes too much, I admit. I've tried to find a balance between time spent on the computer and time spent doing other things, but as Felina put it "I am in my element and feel 100% normal" when in front of the geek box.
She understands and that helps. She's passionate about other things and we support and respect each others differences and interests.
(I'm also saying this because she's sitting right beside me and told me to say it ;))
During busy periods everyone pretty much leaves me alone in the den but I occasionally get an instant message telling me that dinner is done.
There are currently 5 PCs hooked up to the network, makes it easy to get into a good battle on Age Of Wonders 2.
Well, let's just say that if your SO doesn't understand your job and love of it then perhaps it is time to upgrade to SO 2.0.
Got him a side job doing hardware installs, which he loved, but then he found out he'd have to re-boot and use a mouse. He put up with that for only so long, then he was dying to Un-retire from the Army. Hated mouse-work.
We bought voice recognition software so he wouldn't have to learn to type (bad move..it took longer to train the software than it would have to learn to type!) He couldn't stick with it, usually would get as far as reading e-mail, but reply with, "hey, let me phone you, ok?"
I was delighted he was getting into this century, until he made a lady friend he thought was "interesting".
"She" didn't understand computers either, she liked to bake, garden, and can fruit she grew in her small orchard. She did needlepoint. Her mail was full of admiration for a guy who wanted direct communication, not electronics.
<delete mail account>
I'm much happier if he doesn't use the computer thank you. Here honey, enjoy your remote control, I hear Fear Factor is on tonight...
I may be a nerd, but an Idiot I am not <grin>
His main goal now is to be a househusband... which he gets to do after Christmas - after he gets his brand new motorcycle for being so patient with me ;).
He is very secure with me earning more than him... he wants to stay home with the kids so I have more FULL attention for work and am not working weird hours of the night because I can't get much done with the kids here during the actual day :).
Life too short, you know?
Now, though, I'm married to a great guy who's actually understanding and respectful of the sometimes late and weird hours I put in (twist of fate) so if I see it happening too much, I'll just try to re-think things like: could I take an hour off for a break or a walk with SO and the dogs? will the world fall apart if I go off-line on the weekend for 24 hours? and usually find the answers are yes (to the first) and no (to the second)...
still working on the balance. :)
although I suspect men can be slightly simpler in their pleasures (easier to please) than women... (I only say this with regard to creating a life that's mutually rewarding.)
simpler in their pleasures (easier to please) than women
you tryin to start somethin homegirl ;)
I have been pretty lucky, my girlfriends have been understanding about the time i spend with my computer.
Even more impressive considering they would ask questions and be interested and still keep their eyes from glazing over because not one of them has known anything about computers, let alone programming.
But seriously, in the former relationship (ex), I could do a lap dance and not have him blink an eye except to reposition his arms so he could keep coding.
In the current relationship, there's mutual thankfulness. If you can make your SO feel truly special, respected, desirable, and loved, I think the time on the PC you spend (or other potential conflicts) get accepted or worked out.
I feel that I spend my time learning and doing things that will eventually make me a living. He wastes his time on games and making graphics and stuff for people he doesn't even know for free. Spends time on useless forums full of kids seeing how many cuss words they can spell.
The worst was a domain I had bought to put a web design site on. I hadn't done anything with the domain yet because I'm not ready. Still learning CSS, etc.
Anyway I discovered that he had built an entire Sims site for someone for free for some stranger he met on one of the useless forums, put the site on my server and used the domain name I had bought. So now as far as I'm concerned the domain is ruined as it got Googled with this stupid Sim site on it. I also don't think my web host would have appreciated this "donation" of his bandwidth had he noticed it since my domain is sitting there free of charge until I get a site built and it starts to make money. He's a personal friend of mine but not my SO and would never give his server space away to some stranger.