My Wife Is Trying To Melt My Stony Heart

need help

[lawman]

We had a minor argument without resolution last night. I then fell asleep and she worked on her homework. This morning I went to work and she went to school. This evening she's trying to make amends. She bought me a carrot cake and got all gussied up - she's looking really good. I'm trying to keep my game face on so I can win the argument. Somebody help; I'm just about to give in to her wiles. Any lucid, sane, testosterone laden advice will be appreciated.

lawman

[Quinn]

Sounds to me like you've already won the argument. ;)

[agerhart]

I am the KING of being stubborn....even when I don't want to....it was passed on to me.

If you don't want to give in, and are tempted, keep thinking about why you were mad in the first place. Block out all attempts to make up......

[lawman]

Sounds to me like you've already won the argument.

I can tell you're not married. :)

If you don't want to give in, and are tempted, keep thinking about why you were mad in the first place.

But it was so petty, it's almost embarrasing to think about. But win I must!

lawman

[edited by: lawman at 10:58 pm (utc) on Nov. 11, 2002]

[mivox]

You live in a warm climate, so this should still be possible down there... Grab a beer, and go barbecue something. When spoken to, grunt.

Then again, I've seen photos of your wife. It may be a lost cause.

(Personally, I put on the grumpy face and start cleaning something... but barbecueing sounded more testoserone-laden then "go do the dishes.")

[edited by: mivox at 10:59 pm (utc) on Nov. 11, 2002]

[Mardi_Gras]

If somebody wins the argument that means somebody else loses. Do you really want to back her into that spot? She is already making peace overtures. Maybe you can call a truce right now and you both win?

Sorry, that is probably not the advice you need to keep your game face on...

[Hawkgirl]

My god, man. There's cake involved. Forget saving face, apologize and eat cake!

[oilman]

I've yet to be in arguement with my wife that wasn't worth losing for a little ;);)

[mivox]

But it was so petty, it's almost embarrasing to think about.
Wait a minute... this doesn't have anything to do with the toilet seat or your dirty socks, does it? If so, you've already lost.

OK... go barbecue either way. By the time you are done, the food can be either a guilt trip or a peace overture, as you see fit. (But if this has something to do with dirty socks or toilet seats, you'd be better off begging forgiveness now...)

[lawman]

My god, man. There's cake involved. Forget saving face, apologize and eat cake!

I ate it. Does that mean I've already lost?

Mivox, I did the cookout thingy. I had to grill her talipia. She told me what a good job I did. She's just not fighting fair.

lawman

[edited by: lawman at 11:03 pm (utc) on Nov. 11, 2002]

[vibgyor79]

Lawman, are you really sure your wife does not lurk in these forums?

[lawman]

are you really sure your wife does not lurk in these forums

I'm pretty sure she doesn't. According to her, I only have two types of friends - lawyers and geeks (SEO types). She doesn't really care for either. Can't wait to get her to a pub conference. Hehe.

lawman

[mivox]

I had to grill her talipia. She told me what a good job I did
Obviously testosterone has blinded you to the fact that you lost a long time ago. Then, with eating the cake on top of everything… I'm sorry. It's hopeless.

Now go pick up your socks. ;)

[tbear]

Hey Lawman,
Why bash your head against the wall.
Buy her something nice, like a bunch of roses or whatever turns her on, tell her you love her (assuming you do:)) and sit back, smile and be nice. Who cares who wins¿ Who is the real winner¿

But then I have 2 ex's so what is my advice worth, LOL.
My girlfriend of recent times say's she's coming back from London to be with me and I'm quietly s******g myself (she's Spanish and real cute!). I love her dearly and don't want to let things go wrong. Maybe I'll call on you for advice.
Smile and the world smiles with you, it is said.
Good luck buddy.

[tbear]

P.S.
What's a Talipia, or shouldn't I ask¿

[EliteWeb]

:) lawman i know you can be a winner. (:
:) im not married nor know your marrage (:
:) so im not sure what to do but since (:
:) im me id take the cake and eat it up (:
:) and then bbQ and drink a beer and ask (:
:) her for some icecream for the cake (:

[lawman]

tbear - talapia (sp) is fish.

EliteWeb - I'm definitely thinking about some ice cream.

lawman

[pmac]

Yup, it can be pretty tough trying to keep the game face on. What you need is something else to keep you pissed off so you can carry that feeling into the argument.

If you like, I would be pleased to drop some self promoting URL'S, start a few threads about politics and religion, and even flame a few senior members in your new forum. That should keep you riled up. :)

[miles]

Lawman you said its something petty. I would forgive and forget. Go get her something nice and remember why you two are married.

[Mardi_Gras]

Let's get on to more important stuff. How did you prepare the tilapia?

[mivox]

Where do you get tilapia, and what other sorts of fish does it compare to? I'm wondering if it's worth hunting down up here…

[john316]

Well, I guess it goes something like this:

When you win the fight, do you really win?

or ..What do you lose when you "win"?

[Mardi_Gras]

Mivox - it is a nice firm fish, great taste, easy for grilling. A little butter, a little olive oil, a few minutes on the grill - tasty stuff. Cap it off with a little butter sauce and some freshly roasted almond slices - a real treat!

[lawman]

Let's get on to more important stuff. How did you prepare the tilapia?

Put a coating of olive oil and grill it. Just the way she likes it. If it were for me, the olive oil would have fresh pressed garlic and about 6 or 7 herbs.

what other sorts of fish does it compare to?

Very mild. She doesn't like a fish with fishy taste. She won't eat salmon, cod or the like.

We get it a Publix (supermarket). They usually have a pretty good selection of seafood. I grilled shrimp for me.

[Alex_Gilman]

Don't buy into her propoganda lawman! ;) Keep holding out!

[lawman]

Too late Alex. I'm already thinking of the ice cream.

lawman

[Tapolyai]

I second Miles comments. Enjoy her company while you can...Tomorrow one of you might be gone.

As for how to make talapia, nile perch, ngege, tilapia, or St. Peter's fish (Lates niloticus and the tilapia mossimbica) - you can fry it with flower, oregano, basil, thyme, and paprika batter just like any other fish, or bake or broil.

This fish (some varieties) can grow to be 550#, and is considered a pest. It eats everything, I mean EVERYTHING, even it's own kind. I saw lakes in Ghana where the tilapia ate the lake to death. It had lush vegetation, variety of fish and other life. Today the lake is an empty mud puddle. The tilapia ate everything, then each other, then they died off...

[Quinn]

Sounds to me like you've already won the argument.

I can tell you're not married.

LOL...no you're correct. ;)

Is anyone else wondering what Lawman's typing into?

In the past fifty minutes, he's asked what to do about the situation, ate the cake, grilled dinner, eaten and begun thinking about ice cream, while posting 4 times....

[lawman]

You are quite the detective Quinn. It happened in this order:

Grilled
Ate Dinner
Ate the Cake
Thought About Ice Cream
Began Posting - by this time I'd already lost. I now realize this.

I'm waiting for my son to go to bed before I get to work on the ice cream. ;)

lawman

[Quinn]

I thought you might have been dictating into a hidden mike in your shirt through dinner. ;)