The less an entity that sells you a service knows about how much it is worth to you, the better. By all means use some kind of conversion tracking. There are pleny of inexpensive 3rd party tracking systems.
I won't ever use a conversion tracking service from the advertising provider, and encourage everyone I run into not to do it either. Among the security/privacy concerns, it ELIMINATES your power to negotiate and/or demand better service. I spend $12,000 a month on AdWords alone - if Google knew how much of a profit I turned from that, they would be sluggish to respond to anything that was above and beyond the normal scope of support. How could I possibly convince them I would stop using their service if they knew how much I grossed from it? Their attitude would be "Well, I see that you've made $XXX,XXX this month - you're telling me you're going to throw that away over <insert mundane request>?"
Never give the places you're advertising the upper hand. You can't really negotiate "rates" with a PPC, but you can negotiate percentage discounts and extra services. And for other non-PPC sources that offer conversion tracking and you could negotiate a lower monthly rate for the ad space/link/whatever ... but if they see how much money you're making from the ad, they're less likely to budge.
The benefits of conversion tracking are strictly THEIR OWN - any decent web stats service can do this for you.
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