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I also use google sitemaps, but doubt it makes much difference.
I dont participate in reciprocal linking to/from the sames sites and have a few other sites I return links from (if I must)- this has always worked for me.
I pretty much agree with the 6-8 weeks timeframe as mentioned by the earlier post above.
Hope that helps ;)