He asked for two links -- I gave him one

[aristotle]

Over the years I've gotten quite a few requests from people wanting a link from one of my sites. Most of their sites are so bad that I usually don't even reply to their emails anymore.

Recently someone asked for two links: one to their website and one to their youtube channel. I thought his site was pretty good and decided to link to it. But I don't like youtube and never link to it, so I didn't even look at his youtube channel.

After I put in the link to his site, I sent him an email to tell him where to find it. He quickly wrote back and thanked me for it, but then said that he would prefer that it point to his youtube channel instead of his website.

I replied that I had already given him the only link he would get from me, but if he doesn't want it, he should let me know, and I would remove it.

That was two weeks ago, and he still hasn't replied.

So should I assume that he doesn't want me to remove the link?

[ken_b]

Unless you said "let me know either way", I'd leave it a while and see if any of your visitors use the link.

If your visitors don't use it, I'd dump it.

[aristotle]

Unless you said "let me know either way"

I said "if you don't want it, let me know"

Logically, doesn't a "no reply" mean that he accepts the situation as it is?

[ken_b]

Yeah, but you can't count on logic to work all that well all the time, a fair amount of the time it becomes il. :)

The ... dump it if your users don't use it ... part of my comment is more reflective of my own thinking that what your users actually use is more important than what a link-seeker wants. Just personal opinion of course.

[aristotle]

dump it if your users don't use it

I agree that's generally a good policy, but I don't always follow it. Partly depends on my purpose for the link. Also, you can influence how often a link gets clicked by how you present it and where you put it.

[alexkevin]

He accepted the situation and thought its okay to get a single link1

[Shepherd]

would prefer that it point to his youtube channel instead of his website.

Funny how much of this I see with the current iteration of internet entrepreneurs, the way they have been hoodwinked into building someone else's empire.

[graeme_p]

There are those who do that, but there are plenty who do other things.

I think people are finding it very hard to make what are effectively on line publications work within their own control, especially with audio and video. Its a lot more difficult to host, and its a lot more difficult for people to find if its on your own site.

On the other hand there are a lot of people building things like web apps.