Mother-in-Law Lays Down The Law For Bride-to-be

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Mother-in-Law Lays Down The Law For Bride-to-be

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3:11 pm on Jun 30, 2011 (gmt 0)

Mother-in-Law Lays Down The Law For Bride-to-be [bbc.co.uk]

Heidi Withers was sent a list of rules by Carolyn Bourne, the stepmother of her fiance Freddie Bourne, after she visited the family home in Devon.

The 29-year-old was apparently shocked to be told she acted "like a brash celebrity" and that she had a "lack of manners".

So she forwarded the email to her mates.

They sent it to others and the message was forwarded around the world.

hmmm, not sure I approve of the e-mail being sent in the first place, nor it being sent to everyone.

I can see those two are going to have a roaring relationship. hehe

There's a privacy lesson here for everyone, too.

Staffa

3:56 pm on Jun 30, 2011 (gmt 0)

Not only may she have a "lack of manners" she has an even greater lack of self-respect.

lucy24

7:29 pm on Jun 30, 2011 (gmt 0)

Hm, I was thinking lack of brains.

jecasc

8:13 pm on Jun 30, 2011 (gmt 0)

Well, with passing on a personal email to friends, she has proven the mother-in-law right. She does not have any manners.

lawman

9:51 pm on Jun 30, 2011 (gmt 0)

Sounds like mommy doesn't approve of the girl who is the object of her baby boy's affection.

LifeinAsia

10:02 pm on Jun 30, 2011 (gmt 0)

Heidi Withers was sent a list of rules by Carolyn Bourne

Sounds like the Bourne Ultimatum to me.

lucy24

2:29 am on Jul 1, 2011 (gmt 0)

Problem solved:

"I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding," she said.
...
"If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and [**typo for 'to'?] lower your sights* for a modest wedding."

See, Heidi walked in the door and immediately informed her fianc�'s parents that they were expected to cough up for her dream wedding. This is not going to happen.** So they won't get married, and she will never have to learn to be ladylike.

* Miss Manners has been saying this for years, for all the good it does.
** Unless your husband-to-be is the son of the Prince of Wales, when special rules apply ;)

Old_Honky

4:05 pm on Jul 1, 2011 (gmt 0)

My first reaction was to side with the mother in law, however since I found out that the girl has diabetes I have changed my mind. I am diabetic and I know that it is not always possible to eat what other people want you to eat to their timetable so that part of the "lecture" was ill conceived and more bad mannered than the girl appears to be.

Full text of the email is on the diabetes forum:
[diabetes.co.uk ]