What do you look for in a significant other?

What qualities are most important? Women can play too.

[wyweb]

For me number one is compassion. I like gentle women. A woman who will stop the car when she sees a small kitten in the middle of the road, not giving a damn about the traffic behind her, jump out, grab the kitten and jump back in, flipping off anyone who's dared to honk at her.

Compassion tempered with steel.

I like women who'll stand up to me, who'll tell me when I'm messing up because, as much as I hate to admit this, sometimes I honestly don't know. A woman who's not afraid to say, "C'mon, lets get this trash out to the road. I told you it needed taken out 2 hours ago." or "What happened? That razor miss your face this morning?"

I like educated women but who haven't let the books take over their common sense. Someone who can hold their own in just about any conversation.

I like women who like to dress up because every now and then I like to dress up and go out myself. There's nothing wrong with the t-shirt and blue jeans look, in fact it's one of my favorites. If she's with me I'm going to be proud of her no matter what she's wearing. Most women are good with this one anyway. They'd just as soon dress up more often.

My ideal woman is comfortable either being alone or in crowds. I'm not comfortable in crowds, not unless I know everyone in the room. If she sticks close she can ease me through it. Not that I panic or anything. I just get real quiet. A good woman can make conversation for me and then I don't have to talk. Sometimes I like it like that.

Up on Cripple Creek, she sends me
If I spring a leak, she mends me
I don't have to speak, as she defends me
A drunkard's dream if I ever did see one*

If I'm drinking myself there's no problem with conversation. You'll be trying to make excuses to get away from me. I've cut way back on my drinking though. Dr's orders.

I like creative women and I've known several. I like women who like to cook, not women who think it's their duty. Hell I like to get in the kitchen and bang pots around myself. My skills are limited though. I do chili pretty well. My spaghetti sauce is first rate. I can't throw together 5 courses off the top of my head and have it on the table in an hour, but I like a woman who can.

Anyone care to run with this?

*^{Robbie Robertson with "The Band"}

[wyweb]

Computer literacy is important too. Staying off my computer is even more important. I'm obsessive about my desk. Overly obsessive at times. If we hit it off and she may even actually agree to move in, we'll set her up her own office in a spare bedroom. My machine is off limits to everybody though. I won't let God himself get on this thing.

Oh yeah, must love dogs... LOL... wasn't that a movie or something? Pretty sure it was.

[rocknbil]

She's her own person and wants me for me, we both allow each other to be who we are and that's what we like about each other. No drama, an understanding that there are bigger battles to fight, let's fight them together. And a tight caboose has got nothing to do with it. Really. :-)

[Matthew1980]

Ha ha, I had to see who this was going to involve.

She's her own person and wants me for me, we both allow each other to be who we are and that's what we like about each other. No drama, an understanding that there are bigger battles to fight, let's fight them together. And a tight caboose has got nothing to do with it.

Forgive my ignorance but I guess as caboose means something else?

Me personally though, I will replace look for, with looking for. I get all sorts of advice from people at work, and often this discussion ends up with either: "Come out with me tonight and I'll introduce you to some friends of mine", or: "Get yourself on match dot con".

Compassion; patient; nice chemistry; good happy nature, I'm not one for being shallow and basing everything on looks, but first impressions count. Ha ha, maybe I am too picky!

At the moment though, I am a career person, still trying to establish myself in my chosen path - setting myself up for the future is my first concern, anything else is a bonus..

Surely this should be a Friday afternoon thread too, are you a little bored wyweb?

Cheers,
MRb

[lawman]

Not sure what it is about wedding cake that changes things.

[wyweb]

are you a little bored wyweb?

Yup :)

[weeks]

Kindness, or compassion, is the key to making relationships worthwhile.

Treat your spouse as nice as you treat your cat or dog, and you'll do fine. Pets make "mistakes" but we forgive them. They can be annoying, troubling, or just need attention when we would rather be doing something else. But, we don't get angry with them, or at least stay angry with them. The person you love deserves the same treatment.

[LifeinAsia]

Lack of a current husband or significant other. :)

[topr8]

pretty and fertile ... i don't really need conversation.

[wheel]

Your woman better hurry the hell up because I don't stop for animals on the road.

[incrediBILL]

I like my women just like my coffee...

... bitter

[wyweb]

Lack of a current husband or significant other.

LOL

I like women who can challenge me also. Women who make me think because I get in a rut sometimes. I get complacent. I put it on auto-pilot and stay there. I like a woman who can yank me out of that and get me back on track again.

[LifeinAsia]

My significant other helps me better myself. I don't always agree with the way in which she goes about it (and sometimes gets the opposite response she was trying to accomplish), but I usually can't argue with the end results.

[wyweb]

My significant other helps me better myself

Exactly. That's what I look for too. I was hoping to hear other people say this, not that she's just a fine piece of ass or gets freaky in bed.

What does she DO for you.

And I'm sure that'll bring all the trolls out but that's what I'm looking for here...

[Matthew1980]

This is depressing me now; it's kinda rubbing it in now, and fate is being a little deaf to my requests at the moment.

<sigh>

Cheers,
MRb

[tangor]

I just want a woman who will outlive me (outlived two wives, one of which I was married to for 29 years, the other was 10 years).

Some of the recent FOO is TOO Phooey...and I'm not sure why I play. I will play less from here on out. I gave up posting Tangor's Sunday Funnies when I was reminded by others that this watercooler was geared for Internet and Web-related topics that are not found in the regular forums. Far as I know women are not Internet devices... but then again, I'm getting long in the tooth and maybe missed a few upgrades/tech advances. :)

[wyweb]

Far as I know women are not Internet devices...

Well, I upgrade on a semi-regular basis. Newer version comes along, I'm probably gonna get it.

I may have taken some liberties here tangor but nobody's yanking the thread so it seems to be accepted.

Besides, it saves me from having to go somewhere else to talk. I'd rather do all my talking in one place.

[tangor]

Liberties acknowledged. Yak away. I'm off to SEO. :)

[rocknbil]

but I guess as caboose means something else?

Wiggle. Tick Tock. "That reminds me, I need to get my watch fixed." - W.C. Fields

look for in a significant other

The most important thing anyone can learn about relationships and finding them -

When you stop looking for them they will find you. You won't even see him or her coming.

[LifeinAsia]

You won't even see him or her coming.

And that's when you get run over. :)

[Matthew1980]

>>Wiggle. Tick Tock. "That reminds me, I need to get my watch fixed." - W.C. Fields

Missing the point still.... Oh well, I shall move on now

>>When you stop looking for them they will find you. You won't even see him or her coming.

This is something that gets said a lot.

This may come across as slightly *whatever the appropriate 'ist' is* (I can never remember), I would like to come home one night and not have to cook a meal, just kick back relax, and then eat..

Lol! A decent quality - someone who would tolerate me and my many foibles.

Cheers,
MRb

[bhonda]

What does she DO for you.

Ever wonder why the divorce rate is so high? This is why. Relationships have moved from 'What can I do for them' to 'What can they do for me'.

Of course, you will always benefit from a relationship. But that is not your aim, it is not your reason for being in that relationship.

To love is to think of someone else above yourself, without condition, without demanding anything else back.

With the attitude of 'What can they do for me', breeds a consumerist view of relationships. You see a relationship as something that benefits you. And if it doesn't benefit you, then you end it, and go find another one that does.

It's shallow, selfish and immature.

I'm getting married in July. My aim is not to better my own life. But I've found someone I want to look after, and I want to try to make them happy. I'm not saying I have all the answers, and I'm not some relationship guru (as my fiancée will tell you!). I'm just being honest.

So, instead of trying to please yourself, try looking to please someone else. I think that's the way it's supposed to work.

[incrediBILL]

But I've found someone I want to look after, and I want to try to make them happy.

But you're saying the same thing.

They want to be looked after, you want to look after them, perfect relationship!

<ducks>

[wyweb]

Relationships have moved from 'What can I do for them' to 'What can they do for me'.

No no no.. you've got me wrong here. It's okay, I should have been more specific.

Not what can she DO for you, but what does she do for you. Fine distinction here.

I'm not talking about getting up and cooking you breakfast. I'm talking about getting up and just making you feel good because you're in her presence.

Relationships are definitely 2-way streets and they take some work too. I don't take things from women. I GIVE to women, probably too much sometimes...

[wyweb]

Did you read my OP bhonda?

[bhonda]

Did you read my OP bhonda?

Yup...sorry. I have the tendency to rant!

[wyweb]

I have the tendency to rant!

Well, I do too. It's all good though....

[wyweb]

And if you want to get intimate with your woman, brush her hair. Take a shower with her and wash her from head to toe, then get out and dry her off. You can rub moisturizing lotion on her as well. She'll purr like a kitten.

Linda was my Cherokee Indian girlfriend. Long black hair down to her butt. I'd brush it for her and then braid it.

Guys run off half-cocked sometimes. It's what we do. You've got to pay attention to your woman though. There's another guy just waiting to step in if you don't.

And to qualify this, if you've been in a marriage for 25 years and you haven't killed each other yet, none of this applies to you except in a very small sense.

[lawman]

Whew! I think I'll take a cold shower now.

[incrediBILL]

A couple of more posts like that and we'll be in the Pay Per Foo Penthouse Forum