Did I dream that, or is it real?
not with an active site
argue that I have a trademark, but she actually has the same last name
But she's seriously hurting my business
offered a flat $100k USD
Do you mean that, some people searching for your business, are finding her site first, before you ?
Or using the domain name for e-mail purposes? Perhaps her family uses it for their e-mail too?
While the .COM is the de facto US ccTLD, there's another option. You could, if it is available, register the .US and promote that.
just the sake of nostalgia, it's not doing anyone any good.
And in 2030, when this domain name expires, and if this is still legal, it will be automatically registered by companies which are in the business of grabbing every domain name....
BTW, as for the original topic, I discovered that ICANN does have a policy against it, but only if I can show that the domain was purchased in bad faith:
the UDRP is a three part test:
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- the domain owner acted in bad faith
it would be impossible to prove "bad faith" considering the stated facts.
I know that the most logical move is to change the name of the business, but that's just not practical, either. I guess I have to try to hang on until 2030 and hope that she or her executors "forget" to renew it.
I'll state the obvious: If it is that important, and you have that kind of money to throw at it, why don't get yourself to her front door (or those who are caring for her) and do a polite knock and make your sales pitch.