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Your only chance to get into DMOZ is to designed sites that meet these guidelines.
WMW does not offer site reviews, so discussion of whether particular sites meet the guidelines or not are not possible here.
If you believe your site does, ask at the OPD Public forum. (No URL, sorry. The WMW adminisrators do not allow people to tell you where that it).
Unfortunately, the frustration you are experiencing is because the process doesn't let you see this at all. So you just come off thinking that it's a problem with DMOZ and not yours.
You tell your friends that, they tell their friends, and so on.
No one seems to care that this is happening. I can only guess that AOL or someone at DMOZ doesn't don't deem that the submitters are the least bit important.
Or maybe they just don't care about the directory at all, and the editors have taken that up as an explicit policy on their part. Whatever the case may be, the editors certainly don't seem to care what submitters think about their directory.
In fact, they regularly and proudly declare this. This seems to be a bizarre direction to go in strategically. In reality, submitters are probably the only people that are even aware that DMOZ exists, so why alienate the only group that you actually interact with? I think this attitude really isn't necessary and is really just generating a lot of ill will and undermining the effectiveness and importance of DMOZ.
Because ... you don't want to interact with them? Because it is extremely important that you not interact with them?
The ODP isn't a way to look for dates. It's a community building a directory.
Interaction with frustrated submitters is, in reality, based on community experience, literally, personally dangerous for editors. (Any editor who has actually been in contact with several dozen submitters will know from PERSONAL experience that this is so.)
And so it is strongly disrecommended.
In fact, I recommend there should be less human interaction. Having to go to the dmoz forums to ask human editors why your submissions didn't work seems rather silly and yes is kinda asking for trouble.
As for dating? Yaa-ikes.
Submissions are really not needed as they are the worst source of quality sites. Reviewing them is not a top priority which is why submitters should take the time to read the guidelines, make an appropriate submission and forget about it for at least six months.
Thinking about it. Uhmmm... really.
However, marketing is very important and you will lose a channel to a large subset of your users. That connection, while frustrating, does at least keep you guys somewhat relevant in their eyes.
Better is to have a submittal process which is more intelligent and gives people reasonable recourse.