1.) Keep refreshing until you see it... ;)
2.) Up your daily budget on the adgroup, take a look, then put the daily budget down again (do this late at night, on a Sunday, or at another time when you think that not many people will be searcing for it if you're worried about the extra clicks).
3.) Trust the average position G tells you (which is pretty much spot on, in my experience).
You can increase your daily budget in campaign settings and you can view ads targeted to a disfferent country or language via
gland
hlparametters in the URL.