google sitemaps is also pretty usefull, it might jumpstart the process. But yeah, in the beginning sometimes things can move slowly, but google is just trying gauge how serious you are about your site. just keep adding content and things will fall into place. also, if you don't have a robots.txt file, you can add this to your meta tags to let googlebot know you want to be spidered:
Hello, jtaylor. I would like to share with you this quote from one of Google's engineers: "One of the classic crawling strategies that Google has used is the amount of PageRank on your pages. So just because your site has been around for a couple years (or that you submit a sitemap), that doesn’t mean that we’ll automatically crawl every page on your site. In general, getting good quality links would probably help us know to crawl your site more deeply." As you can see, according to this, your site may be waiting for two years and still not be spidered if it has no incoming links. As robotsdobetter said, you have better get some links to speed the process. Good luck.