I wanna add a media player where users on my site are able to listen to songs with a click of a button...also on the media player I want to be able to customize it to my liking sort of like I seen on this site paxed.com....if anybody can be of any help please help
XSPF Web Music Player is open source AND flash. I have been using it for a while and it is really easy to implement and you can use it for commercial or personal sites. The only thing I wish it had was fast forward and rewind buttons (within songs) but other than that it is pretty solid.
If you want a nice but cheap alternative you may want to look at www.IStockPhoto.com. Yes its becoming one of the leaders in stock photography but they do have lots of other stuff too. I downloaded a few FLASH PLAYERS there that have done the trick for me. Otherwise there are tons of tutorials on how to build your own as well. I'm sure that a flash mp3 player or something would do the trick.