best way to embedd MP3s?

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I've got some (legal) MP3s on one of my site. I'd like users to be able to either choose to download it or listen to it "live" without downloading it.

I know I can embedd it and make it play as soon as the page is loaded, but then there won't be pause/stop/value controls.

if I link directly to the MP3, some users (those with quicktime) can listen to it live and pause/etc, but for those without the right software that'd just prompt a download