Embedding video into webpage

Need some tips and help

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I have a mpeg clip that I have converted into a wmv file. Its a variable bit rate file of around 3 MB.

I want to embed it in a webpage so that people can view it without opening a external player. I have links to the file in other formats including mov, mpeg, and avi.

The problems I am having,

1) I encoded it in wmv 9. This helped create a great looking small file and I don't mind if it doesn't work in older players because of the option to download the video in other formats. I can't seem to find any updated object or embed tags to go with wmp 9. Most of the examples of setting up object and embed tags or for older versions wmp. Most of the tags people are using are depricated. I can't seem to find a good example of someone using non-depricated tags.

2) The video is 320x240 and looks normal without the controls. If I add the controls it warps my video making it look more like 320x200. How do I avoid this and why does this happen?

3) I can pass xhtml 1.0 strict validation by just using the object tags but of course all fails when I use the embed tags to work with firefox ect. Is there a way to add video that will work in firefox that will still pass validation?

4) I also can't seem to find a good simple list of non-depricated parem tags or embed tags. Anybody know of a good source? I have looked up and down microsoft but have only found lists with very little information. For example, what is the codebase for wmp 9?

Thanks in advance for your replies