Forum Moderators: not2easy
In many cases I can see the validity of it- they don't want to get in the middle of a he said/she said argument without some sort of signed statement. But it just doesn't make sense to me in the cases where you can easily see images being hotlinked or content that has obviously been lifted from somewhere else (including the copyright notice from the copied site).
The "victim" has to jump through hoops and spend time and money (write and print the complaint, postage or fax charges to send it, etc.), when the issue could and should be corrected with just an e-mail.
What that means for you - asking someone to take down content is asking them to judge whether or not you are the copyright owner. But, serving a DMCA complaint doesn't ask the website owner to decide anything - he is required to take down the content. You assume the liability for the improper DMCA complaint - he has no liability.
While you think you are being nice by asking nicely to have the content removed, you are just opening the webmaster up to more liability. Just send the DMCA form letter - he will probably appreciate it.
Running a forum/board is a lot like raising children or training puppies - you have to be consistent, if you let them get away with it once, they will try to get away with it all the time.
WebmasterWorld is one of the few places I visit where the ToS are well enforced.