I just added suphp to my VPS and my server loads have gone through the roof. I had heard there was some overhead when using suphp but I had no idea it would be so high--sometimes 100s of times higher than before.
I didn't find out until after the fact that eaccelerator wasn't compatible with suphp.
I've got 100 sites or so on my server and all but a few are wordpress and joomla so it's pretty php intensive.
I haven't been able to find any options for lowering the server load other than adding caching plugins to WP and joomla and hoping that it lowers the loads. But I'm hoping the WebmasterWorld geniuses might have some ideas ;)
Thanks!