ergophobe - 5:36 pm on Oct 6, 2010 (gmt 0)
you dont give your neighbours the benefit of your parenting advice every time you see their kids playing around, because its none of your business.
Actually, I grew up in a fairly small town and that is *exactly* how things worked. More precisely, if you got out of line, it got back to your parents, not as "parenting advice" but as "useful information about your kid you might want to know".
And so it should be with commenting a colleague's work. If that person wants help/feedback, you should be honest, but also non-judgmental as much as possible. Give your reasons and stop there. But if that person doesn't want feedback, nothing good will come of it. The hard part is knowing where they are mentally, but unless asked, I usually shut up.