d40sithui - 4:46 pm on Dec 22, 2008 (gmt 0)
I don't know the answers to your questions, but I have been using a pretty neat flash player. The good thing about this player is that it's got a playlist feature and is fully customizable. It requires an XML playlist format to load the playlist. Of course, you can always choose to play only one video in which case you would only include one video inside the playlist. Here is a simple snippet to embed.
It's pretty nice I think and will probably take care of your current problems. Here is their website to download the "mediaplayer.swf" along with the player resources. [developer.longtailvideo.com...]