My perspective from a guy with a few smaller sites on a few in your list.
Depends on what you are linking too, just adding any link because the the other site has done the same then I can agree. I use such pages to gather links for my sites but will only link to sites that are of the same nature. My sites are also aimed primarily at locals so I may include some links that may be of interest to the local visitors.
I have one site that hasn't changed in 3 or 4 years. It's for a single niche product and has ranked at the top for the last 2 years. There is simply nothing to add that will add any value to the end user. I will be updating it shortly but they will mostly be cosmetic changes.
The above mentioned site is so niche that there is very few places that would have any interest in linking to it, certainly doesn't make it crap though.
For the most part the rest I can agree with.