Tommybs - 6:43 am on Jun 17, 2011 (gmt 0)
The likes with the other sites like buttons have been attributed to those sites as a separate entity in the open graph. So they will never match up with the likes on your facebook page.
2) You could try changing the width and height properties of the iframe to being a lot small and so only show the actual "like" part of it. The width and height are listed in the code you posted.