I've looked at Buzzstream recently and I'd say it's definitely worth a try for outreach (especially as they have a free trial) [N.B. not affiliated with them in any way]
Of your three example messages, what they say to me is:
"... and when you do, how about including us?" (add pitch about why your site is a good match for their link page)
"... but some of your link partners have dumped you or died. We provide the same service as <dead link in the report you sent them>"
"... but it's the same as <dead link in the report you gave them>"
The bottom line is that a lot of folks are ingrates. I've had a ton of people fix their links with the info I gave them and ignore my suggested site. But they don't all do that, so I keep at it.
P.S. got your PM, I'm not blanking you just up to eyeballs will PM back when I can