That's part of my life, but I doubt its part of most on the web - with all due respect. There are 'levels' and thats something I enjoy, unfortunately for you, you cant grasp this.
People find you on the SERPs and link to you from their news articles, their corporate website, from their blogs, from forum posts.
Well, if thats your idea of heaven and success, you're most welcome to it. Probably goes hand in hand with 'self worshipping' nobodies I suspect. Self important people - ugghhhh, everyone's a guru, oh no!
It's why some sites sit their fat asses on the first position and can't be moved.
No, they cannot be moved because they have piles of cash that says so. They buy hoards of links, so its quicker than the link swap crap the lesser websites have to endure. Its not difficult to know what they are doing to reach the top.
The web is not a level playing field anymore I'm afraid.