phranque - 12:29 am on Mar 2, 2013 (gmt 0)
welcomne to WebmasterWorld, chikitado!
if the web servers are on separate hosts then you will have to pick one of them to be the db server.
when making the connection from the other web server you will have to address the db server by IP address or hostname.
the database will likely have to be configured properly to authorize a connection from a remote host.
you might need some technical support from your db server hosting provider to get this working.