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Webwork

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Msg#: 10441 posted 3:37 pm on Jun 27, 2006 (gmt 0)

An interpersonal strategy that does not work:

Telling a nut "You're a nut!".

A. Nuts are nuts. They just don't get it. So, what's your point. To express your anger towards the nut? Well, then . .

B. True nuts don't get it and can be dangerous too boot.

Still, from time to time, I strain against the impulse to say it. Even with temporary nuts, like someone having an emotional moment. Ya know?

Another interpersonal strategy that does not work:

"Go ahead. Shoot me."

Another:

Saying "What's your %#$%!% problem?" to the man or woman wearing the blue uniform.

Whilst time has proven that such interpersonal strategies are abysmal failures you can bet there will be another performance today, somewhere in the world.

Might even be you. Or me. "Nooooo . . . not me . . . "

Have we truly "met the enemy and he/she is us!" (Pogo)

Any other examples of timeless, tried and tried and tried again interpersonal strategies that do not work?

What did you say to your wife, husband, significant other or boss today that had the predicted - untoward - effect? Didn't you do the same thing a couple of months ago?

"Go ahead. Make my day!"

Nooooooooooooo

 

4css

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Msg#: 10441 posted 4:31 pm on Jun 27, 2006 (gmt 0)

Any other examples of timeless, tried and tried and tried again interpersonal strategies that do not work?

Telling siblings not to argue, hubbie not to pick on youngest son? (makes one wonder who the adult really is?)

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Msg#: 10441 posted 4:59 pm on Jun 27, 2006 (gmt 0)

My personal favorite...
"Now, don't take offense to this BUT..."

The recipient almost HAS to take offense at that point. It may not even be offensive, but if the recipient doesn't act offended then it projects the image the he/she didn't know that he/she SHOULD be offended.

Take offense, just in case! :)

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Msg#: 10441 posted 12:09 am on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

"I didn't mean to interupt . . ."

Draconian

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Msg#: 10441 posted 12:13 am on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

Woman: "Do I look fat in this?"

or did I miss the point completely...

le_gber

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Msg#: 10441 posted 7:54 am on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

Yesterday I received an email for the third time from a 'wrongfully' unhappy client. He threatened me with legal actions.

I wanted to tell him - WELL SUE ME!

... but then I remembered that he is a barrister and it wouldn't cost him anything to try and sue me just for the sake of it.

Needless to say that I replied politely to his #%*@#% email :)

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Msg#: 10441 posted 8:02 am on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

Woman: "Do I look fat in this?"
or did I miss the point completely...

No, you make a good point on useless interpersonal strategizing.

Woman: "Do I look fat in this?"
Man: "To tell the truth, yes you do look fat in it."
Woman: "There you go again, you are ALWAYS insulting me, you sonofa&%#$. I am getting sick and tired of it, and of you, too!"

Woman: "Do I look fat in this?"
Man: "No, you look beautiful."
Woman: "There you go lying to me again. I can't ever get an honest answer out of you, you sonofa*&%^$&. I am getting sick and tired of it, and of you, too!"

Nybo

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Msg#: 10441 posted 8:40 am on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

Telling others what opinion they ought to have of you. [You as a person, or whatever group of people (nation, belief, company etc.) you happen to represent].

I just saw someone in a forum play the old "guilt game" with those people (of which I am one) who disagree with her own view of the particular group of people that she identifies with. I was unconvinced. If she wants my respect she will have to show me that she is worthy of it. Telling me what to think and what not to think is not enough.

Sarah Atkinson

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Msg#: 10441 posted 2:03 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

Guys Try something like this...(just make whatever bs excuse you give sound good):

Woman: "Do I look fat in this?"
Man: "To tell the truth, yes. That dress looks horrible on you. I think I read somewhere that the color blue ads 10 pounds to people with your hair color. Maybe you should try the black one."

Webwork

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Msg#: 10441 posted 3:51 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

  • "You're a nut!"
  • "Go ahead. Shoot me."
  • A variation: "So, SUE ME!"
  • "What's YOUR problem (officer)?"
  • "Stop acting like children!"
  • "Now, don't take offense at this BUT"
  • "I don't mean to interrupt . . "

    Might I add:

  • "You're being TOO EMOTIONAL" or "stop being SO emontional . . "

    [edited by: Webwork at 3:58 pm (utc) on June 28, 2006]

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    Msg#: 10441 posted 3:57 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

    "It's none of my business, but..."

    Webwork

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    Msg#: 10441 posted 4:00 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

    LOL. A classic. I know that well.

    "I don't mean to pry . . "
    "It's none of my business . . "
    "Would you mind telling me . . "

    Brings to mind another classic:

    "Don't tell anyone but . . "
    "Promise you won't tell anyone . . "
    "You just can't tell anyone this . . "

    And another classic:

    "Don't worry . . "

    And, finally, a recent classic, spoken to a "mature" teenager, on the eve of a weekend away adventure involving other "adult" teenagers:

    "You're in charge, so make sure nothing happens . . . " WHAT was I thinking!

    4css

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    Msg#: 10441 posted 4:38 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

    Come on Webwork, I'd love to see you tell a woman she is being too emotional? Like your life? ;)

    Ever hear the saying I've got pms and a handgun, any questions? :)

    Another good one is:

    I don't mean to hurt your feelings but...

    lmbo@Sarah's response!

    4css

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    Msg#: 10441 posted 5:32 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

    Just thought of another one:
    Don't mean to sound dumb/stupid but...

    Webwork

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    Msg#: 10441 posted 6:09 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

    Actually, that last one isn't a bad strategy at all, though I don't think strategy is the right word. :) Real humility is a beautiful thing. The brightest people that I know also tend to be the most humble. Humility is a trait that we all would do so much better in the world if we could just get the knack of it. :)

    Unspoken imbedded statement, preceding actual audible statement: "I KNOW what I'm talking about . . . "

    Yes, that's me I'm referring to.

    Unspoken inaudible statement in the mind of the listener: "Doh!"

    Invisible imagery in the mind of the listener, the one listening to the "I KNOW" speaker: Car flying off click, crashing, exploding and burning.

    Yes, human communication is such a wonderful thing. Heaven forbid we ever manage to read minds, messy, illogical, irrational things that they are. Thank heaven for filtering, save for the fact that the filters are imperfect.

    "Go ahead. I dare you. You don't have the guts."

    [edited by: Webwork at 6:29 pm (utc) on June 28, 2006]

    4css

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    Msg#: 10441 posted 6:24 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

    "Go ahead. I dare you. You don't have the guts."

    Now, that is a statment that always gets me going.

    Webwork stated:
    Unspoken imbedded statement, preceding actual audible statement: "I KNOW what I'm talking about . . . "
    Yes, that's me I'm referring to

    You speak like that? ;)

    Hmm never noticed that about you.:)

    Webwork

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    Msg#: 10441 posted 6:29 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

    Visible, manifest communication:

    :-P

    4css

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    Msg#: 10441 posted 7:28 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

    LOL!
    ;)

    gamiziuk

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    Msg#: 10441 posted 8:26 pm on Jun 28, 2006 (gmt 0)

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