Thanks Vadim,
I did upload the file from google and the site has been verified. I'll use Xenu tomorrow and give that a try. Maybe 30 pages have been crawled since I signed up for sitemaps, but nothing is in the index (hasn't been after going pr0 several months ago). I wonder if a site has to be in the index to get actual data to show up. And possibly not have a penalty (not sure if it does).
Also maybe I'm confusing what data will show up. Right now all that shows is:
Under Crawl stats - "Successfully crawled" has a red bar, "page rank low" has a red bar. Nothing else is showing
Under Page analysis - Type text/html is blue, and Encodings US-ASCII is blue. Nothing else is showing
Under Query stats - Nothing is showing, it just says Data is not available at this time.
Under Index stats it just shows stuff like site:mysite.com, but since the site is not indexed, nothing there.
Under errors, they all say "You have no errors to view"
So maybe it is working and just not indexed and/or penalized? Off to bed, I'll upload a site map tomorrow and see how that goes. thanks.