you can detect who is linking to you in some SE like google. But most of sites will not be listed there even if they are linking to you.
a 50% of my incoming links are not listed in google.
I got Arelis software but it tracks incoming links to my site relaying SE too. So I really don't know how many and who is really linking to me.
That is a serious problem because my link pages have some 300 outgoing links.
First, I don't want to waste links with those that are not linking back,
Second, I need to know who is linking to me and be able to track that on time and in the future.
So I basically need a tool able to handle a list of urls (given, I can provide a list of sites I suspect are linking to me) and tell me if there is a link to my site.
Does such a tool exists?
I heard that software to check positions on SE bothers SE so I don't want to pass for the same problem checking who is linking to me...